First of all, why isnt there a sticky with an easy three step guide on how to properly load your mods?
Secondly, there seems to be all kind of information about what to do or what not to do and its really confusing! It took me a few weeks to realise im doing the wrong thing, and Im not completely sure I am at this very moment!!
Thirdly, there is a thread with a long explanation of things ( http://www.gameskyrim.com/topic/1353517-important-load-order-and-you/page__fromsearch__1 ) that is so utterly complicated and confusing that it only adds up to the pile of cr*p that can be read on the issue.
I am now using BOSS to sort my mods ... or so I believed... until I read somewhere that BOSS doesnt change the load order for you AT ALL (although it is explicitly written that it does on the skyrim nexus site)... It merely tells you what the load order should be.
So I load up my favourite mod ordering software, Nexus mod manager, since someone told me : "use your favourite mod load order software, such as NMM, to order your mods". Of course, NMM doesnt do that EITHER! .... So currently I believe that I need to use skyrims own software ( SkyrimLauncher) to rearrange my stuff manually. This however, changed my heavlily modified .cfg file that governs my graphics settings so All those hours spent on trying to optimize skyrims graphics are lost. Then, even after using Skyrimlauncher - NMM doesnt recognize this and keeps telling me my load order is something else.
To worsen things even more, I cannot use skyrimlauncher to launch the game since I need to use something called Skyrimscript extender which is run through NMM...
Could someone, who really really REALLY knows how to do tell me once and for all? And please... if you feel that you might not know 100% for sure - DON'T!
And then a moderator could put up the instructions as a sticky - It would have saved me hours instead of reading 10 threads á 10 pages that has given me nothing except confusion.